Look Nº 552 - Fragile!

Este fim de semana todos nós ficámos chocados com a morte do actor Pedro Lima. Suicídio. O confinamento tem destas coisas. O agravamento de depressões. Não consigo perdoar o Pedro e sua atitude, ele tinha 5 filhos, alguns ainda pequenos, penso que escolheu a saída mais fácil. 

This weekend we were all shocked by the death of the portuguese actor Pedro Lima. Suicide. Lockdown has these things. The worsening of depressions. I can't forgive Pedro and his attitude, he had 5 children, I think he chose the easiest way out.
Pedro Lima

O Pedro tinha de pensar nos filhos mais que tudo!!! O amor dos filhos teria de ser maior que qualquer outra dor de alma ou problema financeiro, se não se pode frequentar o colégio particular há sempre a escola pública, a isso chama-se enfrentar a vida! O Pedro deixa a mulher com 4 filhos pequenos, o mais velho é fruto de outra relação e, é maior de idade. Agora os pequenos, parte-se-me o coração!!

Pedro had to think about his children more than anything!!! The love of the children would have to be greater than any other pain in the soul or financial problem, if we cannot attend private school there is always a public school, this is called facing life! Pedro leaves his wife with 4 small children, the oldest is the result of another relationship and is already a man. Now the little ones, my heart breaks!!
Neste momento quem vos fala, é também, a filha de um suicída, que também ficou numa situação difícil com a sua mãe. Desculpem, mas não consigo dizer mais nada sobre isto, tenho um nó na garganta!! Estou em choque com a situação, a pensar no que aquela família está a passar neste momento, porque também o vivi e, sei o que é. Devastador!

At this moment, the one who is speaking to you is also the daughter of a man who also committed suicide and who was in a difficult situation with his mother. Sorry, but I can't say any more about this, I have a lump in my throat!! I'm in shock with the situation and think about what that family is going through at the moment, because I also lived it and I know what it is. Devastating!
Agora, só o tempo pode desvanecer a dor. A minha dor nunca passou, nunca consegui ultrapassar o desgosto, não se pode pensar que podemos transferir a responsabilidade de um filho para os amigos, isso é uma cobardia muito grande! Ainda mais, porque muitos desses amigos, Pedro, não o são, são abutres que se querem aproveitar daquilo que fica para trás!!

Now only time can fade the pain. My pain has never gone away, I have never been able to overcome the heartbreak, we cannot think that we can transfer the responsibility of a son to our friends, that is a great cowardice! Even more, because many of these friends, Pedro, are not, they are vultures that want to take advantage of what was left behind!!
O que fizeste Pedro não tem perdão e há atitudes que não se podem justificar com uma doença ou problema financeiro!! Com 4 filhos pequenos foi uma grande cobardia!!! Desculpem é o que sinto!!! E, de certeza que os teus filhos e mulher vão ficar em melhor situação daquela em que eu fiquei, eu não tive condolências do Presidente, só estou a ser a voz de quem cá fica e o que sente. Atraiçoada!

What you did Pedro is unforgivable and there are attitudes that cannot be justified with an illness or financial problem !! With 4 small children it was a big cowardice!! Sorry is what I feel !!! And, of course, your children and wife they stay in a better situation than I was, I didn't have any condolences from the President, I'm just being the voice of those who stay and what they feel. Betrayed!
Vestido/Dress: Aqui/Here

Por isso, sorriam sempre à vida, por muito negra que ela vos possa parecer, nunca voltem as costas a quem vos quer bem!

So always smile at life, however dark it may seem to us, never turn your back on those who love you!



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38 comentários

  1. That's so tragic and sad. I know it is hard to forgive a person who commits suicide because it is so hard on those who are left behind. The family suffers forever when a family member commits suicide. It also increases the likelihood that another family member will do it. Yes, it is hard to forgive them because it seems like they choose the easy way out but I think that the person who is depressed or mentally ill sometimes cannot help it, the sadness just becomes too much at some point. Men are also more likely to commit suicide than women, maybe the pressure they face in life is greater, I don't know. I feel sorry for them too. I think many people who commit suicide do it because they cannot help themselves in that point in time, they don't have the strength to go on- that's not an excuse and the ones left behind have the right to be angry but we must understand that the dept of sorrow and depression are hard to climb out of.

    You look stunning in that yellow dress dear!

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  2. faço minhas todas as alusões que faz ao suicídio de Pedro Lima. Para mim, matar-se abandonando os filhos, é total cobardia. Tenho mãe viva e o meu pai faleceu de morte natural (ataque cardíaco). O suicídio NUNCA poderá ser encarado como solução. Nunca.

    Mais uma vez elogio a modelo. Lindíssima como sempre.
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  3. Gostei muito destes trechos intercalados com as suas fotos. Uma forma de amenizar a dor! Não consigo compreender. Estou também em choque. O NOSSO PEDRO LIMA deixou-nos! 😢🌹
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    Parabéns pelas suas fotos, sempre elegantes e originais! 🌹🌹
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    Esperei em segredo na fantasia do amor ...

    Beijo, e uma excelente semana. :)

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  4. Muito triste - eu ouvi tantas vezes sobre suicídio, me sinto triste; o quanto essa pessoa deve ter sofrido
    talvez por suicídio, a saída mais fácil (não para seus entes queridos) e, portanto, egoísta
    e corajoso
    fotos muito bonitas de Marisa - como verão 💕
    Você está ótima 😍
    Cumprimentos

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  5. Um suicídio nunca é um ato de egoísmo. E toda a situação referente ao Pedro Lima é mais um alerta para o quanto as aparências podem iludir, para o quanto parece que temos tudo e a nossa cabeça está numa desorganização tal que não conseguimos sair desse estado negro.
    É tão fácil julgar quando estamos de fora

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    1. Não deves ter lido tudo o que escrevi, só pode!!!

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    2. Li tudo e, claramente, não estava a pôr em causa o que viveste - e que não desejava ao meu pior inimigo. Estava a referir-me ao facto de não sabermos o que se passa na cabeça das pessoas. Só alguém que não está bem pode seguir este caminho, mas não é um ato de cobardia. E nós nunca saberemos o que ela sente porque estamos de fora

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    3. Eu só estou a ser a voz de quem fica. Então o homem faz 5 filhos que não pediram para nascer e agora faz isto! O amor teria que ser superior a qualquer dor. Esta nunca poderá ser a solução.

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    4. Eu entendo isso. Mas se ele estevesse mentalmente bem, não avançaria com essa decisão. Há alturas em que a dor é mais forte do que tudo e não a controlamos como gostaríamos. Aliás, num momento destes, acredito, as pessoas não estão a pensar em mais nada, não lhes é possível.
      Tenho uma amiga de família que já o tentou fazer por duas vezes. É mãe e não tem amor maior do que o que sente pela filha. Faz o que pode e o que não pode por ela. E, mesmo assim, a dor cegou-a de tal maneira que não pensou em mais nada.
      Nada é tão linear. Para quem fica, tenho a certeza que é uma dor inqualificável, uma revolta interior que abre infinitas feridas. Mas quem parte, não o faz de ânimo leve

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  6. Caramba, que situação. Infelizmente não temos como saber o que ele sentia para tomar tal atitude... Não imagino como a família esteja se sentindo. =\

    Beijo.
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  7. Nem todo é como esperamos, mas que vestido mais bonito
    Beijinhos
    Novo post
    Tem post novos todos os dias

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  8. This outfit looks amazing and matched well with the bag and hat :-D

    I don't know who Pedro was sorry. We will never know the suffering of those who commit suicide :-(

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  9. Lamento o que aconteceu com o teu pai, imagino o que sentes.
    Mas, não consigo julgar, apenas lamento muito
    Beijinho

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  10. A vida não é um mar de rosas e lamento o que passaste com o teu pai... O vestido é giro!

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  11. Que o Pedro esteja agora em paz!!🙏
    Boa semana.

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  12. You know that i love your hat? Wlll now you know and I also love this outfit.
    About Pedro, I didn't know about his suicide however I strongly believe that this people are not totally sane Marisa. I mean taking your life it is not that easy so you have to be partially insane.
    I am really sorry for his kids....
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  13. I have mixed feelings about this. I don't think people kill themselves b/c they are bored in the house. Obviously there were other underlying issues. There are two types of depression: the first is bio-chemical and is a disease of the brain/chemicals. The second type is environmental IE: it occurs outside the body and is caused by hardship and people who have to deal with difficulties in life like incest, rape, murder, the death of a loved one, accidents and the the loss of limbs, chronic health problems and chronic pain, and financial distress or in some cases dealing with more then one of these issues over an extended period of time. This often leads to chronic depression.

    He had a nice life: success in his career, financial success, a wife, children, and did not suffer from physical chronic pain. However if he did have bio-chemical depression it is not just "pain" as so many say. It is a disorder of the brain where it is more less telling you, that being dead would be better for everyone. However when one has children and has had so much success in life I feel they should try to the best of their ability to seek out help. Try medication. Try everything you humanly can before taking such a drastic action.

    After all there are people who experience child abuse, terrible accidents and debilitating health problems, financial hardship and the sudden or premature death of loved ones and they do not commit suicide. And many cases there are people dealing with a multitude of hardships in one lifetime and they do not commit suicide. So yeah I guess it is complicated.

    And one thing I can't stand is when people say "God, never gives anymore then they can handle" says who? You! Oh yeah? If that were the case, there would no such thing as suicide. But they need to stop with pat contrived answers, life is complicated and there is suffering.

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    1. I am only putting myself in the role of the children of those who commit suicide, I am also daughter of a man who committed suicide and I know what I felt about my father's act. Love should be greater than any pain, but I can understand that there are moments of insanity. Thanks for the comment!

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  14. It's so sad the way that quarantine and the pandemic have exacerbated mental health issues someone might have- Pedro was obviously struggling and it is so sad that he left his family behind.

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  15. It sad about it what happen :( you look fantastic as always

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  16. Suicide is a terrible thing for everyone. I'm sorry that you've suffered and that those left behind are suffering. I do think a person must be in a lot of pain though, to choose to do that.

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  17. Meus sentimentos, nem devo imaginar a barra que você passou é um assunto extremamente complicado.

    Amei o seu look, solar e lindo

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  18. O sofrimento do Pedro acabou....o da família ainda agora começou...

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  19. Dear Marisa, I'm so sorry that you had to experience this with your father. I totally understand your thoughts about suicide.
    But on a brighter note you look fantastic!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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  20. Yellow is my favorite color! It really suits you :)

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  21. This post made me think: we usually "judge" who commit suicide from the side of the person himself, like"if Iwas at his place I'd do this an that and so on...", maybe you can even think of the parents but really I've never stopped to think about the sons, and that's a very tragic point of view.
    I think that the first duty of parents is to protect they sons and make them grow healty and strong: if you're not totally ready for this DON'T DO CHILDREN!!!
    This person leaved 4 little children non only without the care and support of a father but even in bad economic situation, how can a person be so egoist???!!!
    And don't say he had brain disorder and so because I guess he had even before to do 4 children, so he (or his wife) should have think of it, isn't it?
    I'm very sorry for your story, but at the same time you are the proof that, despite everything, you can still grow up a good person!
    XO
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    1. You really understood my point. Thanks for the comment Silvia.

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  22. Nice look my dear ;)    

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  23. Oh I love this look so much.
    The combination is stunning and yellow suits you perfectly.
    Perfect for the summer days.

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  24. Não posso opinar o que o Pedro passava. Só quem tem acesso à sua mente é Deus.

    Bom fim de semana!

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  25. What an amazing outfit! I love your style so much!
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  26. What a fun dress! the tassels and crochet are so unexpected! :)

    So sorry to hear about Pedro though, I know depression is a tough thing to deal with and we all need to be a little kinder to each other - life can be so tough, we need to face things we have never faced before and it's so sad he felt that was his only way out.


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